Living & wellness

23 Mar 2021 admin

HOW TO ASK FOR HELP WHEN EVERYONE IS STRUGGLING

Going through the highs and lows in life can be challenging for anyone. Most times, we need some form of support to help us through life. But what happens when it gets hard to ask for help? Life is challenging enough, the world’s recent developments have made it harder to remain mentally and physically healthy. With the COVID-19 pandemic and all that came with it, almost everyone is struggling in one way or the other. If you’re finding it difficult to ask for much-needed help because you feel everybody has their problems to deal with, it is understandable. Still, it doesn’t mean you shouldn’t ask for help.

Here are a few tips when asking for help when it seems like everybody is struggling.

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Understand That Asking For Help Doesn’t Make You Weak

For whatever reason or circumstances you may require help with, you need to remind yourself that asking for help doesn’t mean you are weak nor is it a sign of weakness. It does not reflect failure or a burden to others. Everybody needs help at some point, and that needs to be acceptable. Don’t beat yourself up about not being able to handle everything by yourself. Be kind to yourself, and don’t be ashamed to ask for help.

Accept That You May Not Get The Help You Hoped For

Something that might make asking for help easier is acceptable before you ask, that you may not receive the help you need. Sometimes, the people we ask for help may have a lot going on in their lives that hinders them from giving you the help you need. If that is the case, you should consider back-up plans or other resources. Understand that there is nothing to lose by seeking out help. But you won’t stop trying. Fortunately, there are different people and places you can get help from. Try to keep a list either on your fridge, desk, or on your phone of a few people you typically can rely on or helpline numbers.

Maintain Your Relationships

It is common knowledge that it is easier to ask for help when you’re sharing a good relationship with people. While you may be tempted to isolate yourself and not “disturb” others, surrounding yourself with a network of people who care about your well-being is essential. Your family and friends are often the closest to you. If you had lost friends at certain periods where you were struggling, you could start building those friendships again. Make a habit of keeping in touch with people. If it makes it easier, you can keep a diary or set reminders when you need to make calls. Maintaining your relationships makes it’s easier for you to reach out and ask for help when you need it. It is also easier for the person you need help from to give it to you.

Start With Small Steps

When you reach out to someone for help, especially if you’re doing it for the first time, it might help to take small steps by making small requests. Before asking if you could spend time with them weekly, you can start by asking if they wouldn’t mind a five-minute phone call every week. By asking for these seemingly small requests, you can feel more comfortable with requesting a time to connect and less and get better at asking for help when you need it. Also, many people are more willing and more likely to give help if they start slow.

Build a Support System

Your needs vary, and one person can’t meet all of them. In fact, you may need a couple of friends and family members to meet your different needs. To build your support system, you can start by listing the areas you often need help with and the people that can help you with those needs. You can inform them ahead of time regarding how and when you would need their help to ensure they are on board too. Your support system would help you through the toughest of times, but remember to set realistic expectations.

Give Help Too

Sometimes giving help to others in need of it might make you feel better about asking for help in return. Everybody needs help at some point, and while you may not have the solutions to all of a person’s problems, there may still be some areas you can offer help with. You can build a structure like this with your support system. Plus, when you help others, you also feel good about yourself. You can offer to walk your neighbor’s dog once a week, do your sibling’s laundry, or grab some groceries for a friend. When you’ve been of help to someone, asking them for some help might not be so hard, and you won’t feel like a burden.

Have a Routine

You may be surprised how having a routine can positively impact your life, productivity, and receiving help from people. With a routine, you have a structure in place when you may need help the most and organized in a way to get you the help you need. The people you need help from can also include you in their plans in a way that accommodates your routine. You would also not need to have to ask them for help repeatedly.

Support Lines

You may not always get the help you really need from friends and family. They may not have the capacity to help you in particular regard, or you may just want to speak with someone you’re not familiar with. In this case, you may need to seek professional help through support lines and crisis lines. Below are some phone numbers to call when you need help

  • Maple Addiction Recovery Centres
    1-800-542-1429
  • Crisis Services Canada
    1-833-456-4566, or text 45645
  • Centre for Suicide Prevention
    1-833-456-4566
  • Canada Drug Rehab Addiction Services Directory
    1-866-462-6362

It is normal to feel overwhelmed and tired by life. Know that there is help out there if you need it. If you would like to talk to a physician who specializes in addiction medicine, you can book a virtual appointment at Maple Addiction Recovery Centres